Friday, May 29, 2009

Reflection & Count Down to EPU

This week has been one of reflection. We're now 62 days until we both travel to India to meet the Drs at SI and have our EPU.

We had great news yesterday from Darren’s GM that his leave has been approved for July, so we're both officially approved to travel, YAY!

After the recent 60 minutes report on channel 9 on two gay dads from Melbourne and their journey to India for surrogacy and the birth of their twin girls and my subsequent blogging (non stop) and reading the replies to the story, I was really disheartened & was left feeling flat and deflated.

Are we doing the right thing by bringing a child(ren) into our lives? Are we selfish and only focused on our needs and not thinking of the affect two dads will have on our child(ren)? Can two men love a child(ren) as much as a man and woman? Are we really prepared for the major changes in our lives after 12 years of just the two of us?


Lesson learned, I will not be reading anything online or otherwise that will leave either of us upset or question our love, ability and capability of raising a
child(ren) and providing a safe, secure and stable home with
two loving parents.

Bloody GOOGLE and the internet I tell you! Most remarks on the 60 minutes story were positive but the negative responses really had an affect on me. I spoke with my younger sister and best friend Tans who both offered sympathetic ears and listened to my ranting and raving. I also visited another online parenting forum; mostly Aussie mothers and 99% of their posts were in support of Trevor & Pete.

Being able to provide a home where ones child is loved, supported, encouraged and given the chance to grow up in our ever changing world accepting everyone as their equal without prejudice is paramount as far as we are both concerned.

This is the family life we will have with Noddy.

We have a multitude of loving female influences in our lives and all will be a part of our child’s life too. Our mothers, sisters, aunts and female friends will bless our new family with the love and support needed for a well rounded stable life for our Noddy.

As we draw closer to our travel date to India, I’ll post a couple of more times but then we’ll be off the radar for a while. We want to have our 2WW praying for our positive, which we believe we will have and enjoy being drunk in the moment of bliss.

We will then post a few weeks after that, toward the end of August, beginning of September when we (fingers and toes) will be around five/six weeks pregnant.


  1. You are doing the right thing - giving your love to a child forever - who can question this!
    Stay strong guys and hopefully see you in Mumbai!!!


  2. Good for you!!! Piss on those negative people! A child needs love no matter who that love comes from who are we to judge that you both are going to be the greatest Dad's out there?

    Keep the faith guys...and I agree don't listen to that garbage! Be happy and just enjoy the moment.