Thursday, July 16, 2009

14 Day Countdown

Fourteen days, not forty, not even 99. Fourteen days, two weeks until Johnny and Darren leave Sydney for Mumbai and the chance to become parents with Surrogacy India.

We are both in a state of shock. Perhaps this is the calm before the storm. Quite appropriate really since our dear friend in Mumbai, Shobana tells us it's raining a treat. Monsoon has well and truly set in.

The lead up to this point in our surrogacy journey has indeed been a roller coaster as those who've gone before us said it would be. The highs and lows are part and parcel of becoming parents via surrogacy & it does not matter which agency one uses or which country they are in, the journey is no more or less stressful.

The desire to become daddies is what has kept us going & the day we meet our dear Noddy we’ll know the months spent stressing, crying, stressing & praying were worth it. We know it will be.

Our journey began with looking into surrogacy in the USA. Costs were too prohibitive to proceed so this door was closed.

We contacted our local DOCS office and looked into international & domestic adoption, short & long term foster care and even an altruistic surrogacy agreement with our best friend but this was not meant to be our story.

Johnny has a high school friend living in Bangkok who knew of a clinic there dealing with commercial surrogacy and the idea of travelling to Thailand to start our family was looking like the option for us. The Australian woman dealing with International patients at the clinic we contacted made us feel at ease & comfortable with our timetable & plan to become parents. However the Thai government laws changed preventing same sex male couples from commercial surrogacy so it was back to the drawing board & our second door closed.

A third door opened when Johnny found an article online about a clinic in India that had helped an Israeli gay couple father a son through ART & commercial surrogacy. The wonders of the online world came into its own when we found their profile on facebook and discovered they were using Rotunda Clinic. We then found through online research a second clinic in Mumbai, Surrogacy India. Emails were sent and the same day we had a response from Dr Sudhir Ajja.

We were both amazed at the level of customer service from the very beginning and shortly thereafter decided to proceed with SI.

Our beautiful ED was chosen and we have been ecstatic ever since. We know she is a caring giving person who will give us one half of an amazing gift otherwise denied to us. Our SM was another story!!!

One, two and recently three.

The monsoon in India brings about its own issues and I know that we are not the only IPs affected by mosquitos and an SM coming down with malaria. This recently had both of us making another selection for the woman who would ultimately carry our child and the second half of our amazing gift – a child to call our own and complete our family.

We are both over the moon with our SM and we know she is the right woman. All things in life are meant to be and it really is a case of ‘third time lucky’ for us.

Nothing in life has prepared either of us for what lies ahead & we’re glad of that.

A roller coaster yes, but what a ride.


  1. I know how you are feeling for sure. We leave on the 25th and are still numb. Was it your SM who came down with Malaria? I had not heard about this. Wow.

  2. Aw, your story seems so surreal but its finally here guys! I cant believe its only 2 WEEKS away. how exciting. ALL THE BEST AND SAFE TRAVELS. Enjoy the sights, food and what it has to offer while there. We'll be praying for you guys ALL THE WAY.

    GOOD LUCK!!!

  3. Best wishes on this "pre-two week wait", after which you will have the official two week wait and hopefully the start of much more after that!

    As we have found out during our own waits this past month and a half, there is elation after each good result, then the waiting (and apprehension) starts over again until you get the next results! There is quite the roller coaster ride ahead for you still, but I'm sure you're ready and excited for that!

  4. Good luck you guys. Bill and I are 63 days away from going to Mumbai and it feels like forever! Looking forward to reading more about how everything goes. Thanks for sharing your story.

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